Asian style tiger mothers who disdain the bottom of the chain are becoming popular in the American parenting circle

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The term "Tiger Mother" was first known to everyone in the bestselling book "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" by Yale Asian professor Amy Chua, which portrays the typical image of an Asian mother: a strict and controlling mother who spares no effort to get her daughters into top tier universities. At that time, the parenting style of the 'Tiger Mom' was heavily criticized. Especially among Asian parents, there is no lack of serious reflection on the concept of "involution education", and "chicken babies" have become a derogatory term. Unexpectedly, feng shui takes turns. Recently, I read an article in The New Yorker magazine and found that under the guidance and supervision of Asian parents, American parents love their little ones more. Tsai Mei er, who has been teaching at Yale Law School for many years, also noticed that her students have undergone changes. More than a decade ago, when she wrote a book, she felt like a "lonely madman". People didn't understand her and thought that she was a devil who kept her daughter practicing piano over and over again. And now, she sees this situation becoming increasingly common. The concept of tiger mothers from Asia is very popular among middle and upper class families in the United States, and now we are all tiger mothers.

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Whenever Asian parents are mentioned, the first stereotype that comes to mind is always' tiger dad, tiger mom '. If you have been following foreign media's evaluations of Asian parents over the years, almost all of them are 'authoritarian, chicken blood, not caring about children's emotions, only knowing success' and so on. However, a recent study reveals a subtle shift in the perception of Asian parents among middle-class and elite families in the United States, predominantly white. This study, conducted by personal finance company WalletHub, ranked 180 cities in the United States based on their level of child rearing friendliness and found that the top ranked cities had higher median incomes, with the majority being white or Asian populations.

For example, Top 1 is Fremont, California, with a population of 230000. It is located in the San Francisco Bay Area and is also the closest city to Silicon Valley. The cost of living is high, but the average income is also high (the annual household income is about $170000, or 1.21 million RMB), and it has been rated as the city with the highest happiness index. The biggest feature here is that the proportion of Asians is as high as 61%, with a top-notch school district environment, community safety, extremely low crime rate, and the highest property appreciation rate among all communities in the United States. There is also the third ranked city of Irvine, California, where Asians make up 40% of the population; Plano, Texas, ranked fourth, is home to a large number of highly educated immigrants from East and South Asia. There was once a report that due to the large Asian population in the community, education resources were scarce, which "forced" other ethnic groups to move away. On the other hand, if you value education, then going to places with a lot of Asians will naturally be encouraged. As presented in this study, although no direct conclusion has been drawn, those who have read it may share a common feeling: If you want to move to a city that is safe and has good education quality, it's not wrong to follow Asians. Regardless of their racial background, the upper middle class as a group wants to be 'Tiger Mom Parents' - or at least, they want to live near Tiger Mom. Also, many new immigrant families who hope to change their destiny through education want to move to other academically competitive enclaves, including Silicon Valley, northern Virginia, northern New Jersey, or the northern suburbs of Chicago. The commonality among these places is also the large Asian population. Li Feifei, known as the AI godmother and a member of the American Academy of Sciences, moved his entire family from Chengdu to the United States during high school. He chose to settle in northern New Jersey because of the large number of Asians with similar cultures, good school resources, and the proximity to Princeton University

More and more American tiger moms

Why has the tiger mother parenting style begun to attract attention and be imitated by American parents again? One of the most important reasons may be the decreasing college admission rate. Over the past decade, the visibly decreasing admission rate of Ivy League schools has continued to decline from nearly 10% to 3% -5%, while the number of applicants has been increasing. The brutal competition has stirred up already anxious Asian families, which in turn has led to even more relaxed white families joining the internal competition. The top 1% of people and the remaining 99% are working equally hard, and it is no longer as easy for middle and upper class children to go to college as before, but they need to face competition from international students

As for the activities, specialties, competitions, and standardized grades that are the starting points for prestigious schools, it is necessary for more parents to take on the role of tiger mothers to plan them all. In the bestselling book "I Tut on the Upper East Side," the author, who graduated from Harvard and is now working as a gold medal tutor in the affluent neighborhoods of New York, observes: Parents are eager to enroll their children in elite private schools, but their children's qualifications are not sufficient to handle the high difficulty academic courses. Therefore, the home has become the "second classroom" that children are accustomed to, with one-on-one tutoring for almost every course, as well as SAT and ACT, and seamless connection from morning to night on weekends. Parents are unwilling to let their children give up any activity, as if once they have free time, they will fall into an irreparable abyss. Their after-school time is completely filled, and they don't have a moment to breathe These American tiger moms are no less impressive than Amy Chua. A mother repeatedly tore up her daughter's essay and asked her to rewrite it, only because in the eyes of her 14-year-old daughter, Juliet and Romeo's views on love "did not match the correct answer". In the end, she wrote an essay according to her viewpoint, but was instead rejected by the teacher. Besides studying, it's also sports. Some people gather together to practice more niche squash in order to enter the Ivy League, while others are expected to compete fiercely for the Olympics; Someone was asked by their mother to report to the tennis club on hurricane days. Some children have suffered a concussion or permanent shoulder injury, making it impossible for them to play basketball in college anymore. No matter if the child has any psychological problems, as long as they are still on their way to the Ivy League school, everything is not a problem The children pray for their injuries so that they can rest - a break for a break, which is something I never thought of As a result, more and more parents from the upper middle class have become tiger parents competing for academic, sports, and sports opportunities, falling into what economists call the "carpet rat race" to compete for the few college spots.

Cai Meier said in an interview with The New Yorker that she found that more and more people don't want to admit that they have a tiger mom side, but they invest a lot of time in their children's various competitions, and their level of blood is not low at all. Having taught at Yale Law School for many years, Tsai Mei er also noticed that her students had undergone changes. More than a decade ago, when she wrote a book, she felt like a "lonely madman". People didn't understand her and thought that she was a devil who kept her daughter practicing piano over and over again. And now, she sees this situation becoming increasingly common. The admission to prestigious universities is more competitive than ever before, which cultivates an extremely unhealthy culture. I see the shortcomings of this culture in students, some of whom seem more exhausted than in the past. Some things need to be fundamentally changed because all these pressures are walking on a path with nowhere to go.

White families flee together

Cai Meier said in an interview with The New Yorker that she found that more and more people don't want to admit that they have a tiger mom side, but they invest a lot of time in their children's various competitions, and their level of blood is not low at all. Having taught at Yale Law School for many years, Tsai Mei er also noticed that her students had undergone changes. More than a decade ago, when she wrote a book, she felt like a "lonely madman". People didn't understand her and thought that she was a devil who kept her daughter practicing piano over and over again. And now, she sees this situation becoming increasingly common. The admission to prestigious universities is more competitive than ever before, which cultivates an extremely unhealthy culture. I see the shortcomings of this culture in students, some of whom seem more exhausted than in the past. Some things need to be fundamentally changed because all these pressures are walking on a path with nowhere to go. Sociologist Natasha Valico also mentioned this topic in her book 'Race at the Top'. Even if they don't move, white families will try to intervene in school management, change the way students are evaluated, and ultimately benefit their own children based on a certain degree of resentment towards their Asian neighbors - such as demanding that schools reduce the burden of homework in the name of emotional health. And what these white parents didn't expect was that after Asian families came to these towns, they no longer just focused on academics, but began to participate in sports as required by the comprehensive evaluation of Ivy League schools, and encouraged them to start non-profit organizations in high school. Even more thought-provoking is that despite the high level of effort put in by Asian children and the controversial Harvard Equal Rights Act that ended in defeat last year, it still cannot change the fact that Asian American admissions remain particularly difficult in universities. In recent years, it seems that we have entered a chaotic era of a major overhaul of educational concepts. The stereotype that 'East Asian education is more internal and American parents are more relaxed' may have been gradually broken. The first generation tiger mother Cai Meier has recently frequently expressed in the media that although her daughters are very successful, she regrets losing her temper, saying so many harsh words, and doing so many things that hurt her children. She feels that she has made many mistakes and regrets being so strict with her daughter. Of course, some people say that she doesn't have back pain when speaking while standing up. Your child has already been admitted to a prestigious school and has become an elite figure in society, which also proves the reliability and return rate of a chicken baby? So, more and more people are imitating. On Fifth Avenue, leisure is as rare as excess fat, but it is precisely these idle moments that benefit children. However, no matter how much I promote the importance of leisure, parents will only look at me with monster like eyes. If children's lives are always planned, they don't know how to deal with boredom or loneliness. Their brains are always ready to receive information from others or electronic devices, losing opportunities to know themselves, dream, generate inspiration, and achieve enlightenment. In the formation of values in childhood, these moments are particularly important, but the students I tutor seem to have no time to experience them In 'I Tut on the Upper East Side', some middle-class and above families living in New York have a higher level of internal competition and anxiety than most East Asian parents, and their pursuit of grades and results is extremely extreme. There is no tiger, only a tiger. I really like the passage written by the author who graduated from Harvard after observing anxious tiger fathers and mothers, struggling to breathe under heavy pressure and falling into confusion and depression: